• balderdash@lemmy.zip
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    1 year ago

    I don’t want to sound like an incel, and I like eating vag/salad as much as the next guy, but imagine this image with the genders reversed

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      I agree that it would look quite different with the genders reversed. However, gender equality is not like mathematical equality, where every situation needs to be reversible.

      Women have traditionally been less sex-positive and less dominant, which many consider indicators of a lack of true gender equality, so a progressive community will celebrate a reversal of that.

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      1 year ago

      IMO either party doing this is fine as long as it’s discussed and within the comfort bounds of the people in the relationship.

      I think the problem is an expectation when there has been no discussion about whether or not it’s within someone’s limits.

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        I have no issue with oral sex between consenting adults. But this meme would not be as well received if the genders were reversed. It’s hard to even imagine someone posting “always be there for your man in a time of crisis” with the woman going down on the guy.

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          I can only speak for myself but I wouldn’t really mind it the other way around as long as there’s no implied use of force or manipulation.

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          part of the joke is the reversal of the stereotype.
          breaking stereotypes = good
          enforcing stereotypes = bad

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          I believe “consenting” is key here.

          The reason why it’s taboo if the genders were reversed is because there is a long and well documented history of non-consent when genders are reversed.

          Was there non-consent where gals are forcing guys? Very likely. However what evidence I’ve seen suggests this is dwarfed by guys forcing gals.

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    1 year ago

    More importantly. Does that guy have a beard or is that just part of his hair?

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    While we’re on the topic. Everybody needs to read a book about pleasuring their partners.

    She comes first

    Her guide to going down

    I’m sure you can get more focused content for your particular situation if you looked for it, but don’t assume you know what You’re doing. Read and make the world a better place.